Question and Answer:

“Having done Baruchs courses I have the answer to who I am. The clarity is working with “I am love ” every day. Is there a way to really live this daily, easy question not an easy answer I am certain. I find myself trying to love everyone despite my own guide that not everyone wants to be loved like I offer it.

Spending the time with the other is often the default that I go to. I do realise that we all have needs and this may not answer the others needs” P

Dear P,
P: “Having done Baruchs courses I have the answer to who I am.” Colleen-Joy: In moments of inspiration, or clear seeing, it is possible for the mind to translate deep seeing into words. In that moment and relevant to that time in our life, these words can be important and meaningful, especially when they reveal something of our true nature.

A problem can arise when the answer as words become a mantra in the mind, an object of attention used by the mind to reinforce the sense of being a separate self. The separate self does not love, it needs.

P: The clarity is working with “I am love ” every day.

Colleen-Joy: If the true “I am love” is known, there would be no need to work with it every day. No need to prove, do or reinforce. The true self needs no reminding of, reinforcing, or working. The only work needed is to remove what is in the way of seeing and knowing the true self as love.

What is in the way is called ignorance of the true self. So although the words “I am love” point to the truth of what the self is, as non-dual awareness, the words themselves have been co-opted by the mind to become a project. In this way the mind can actually cloud your seeing that you (as awareness, as pure open knowing, not as a person) are indeed love.

P: Is there a way to really live this daily. Easy question not an easy answer I am certain.

Colleen-Joy: Can a tree live daily as a tree? Yes. But then it must not be confused about itself or try to be something that it is not. It must neither be trying to be a tree. When we don’t know our true self and take ourselves as thoughts and ideas, we might be “trying to be” instead of just being ourselves.

Trying is a clue that the mind’s beliefs are in charge of the efforts and the true natural self is still unknown. The true self is that we are awareness, open, boundless awake knowing. Every thought and feeling that arises in awareness is known by awareness.

The thought “I am love” is only a pointer inwards to discover the truth, that awareness is love. As love, there is no need to prove or do anything necessarily with that love. Love moves spontaneously and naturally in each movement, is not contrived, has no needs and is not trying to fulfil others needs. The minds interpretation of love is that love happens when two separate people fulfil each other’s needs or “fall in love”. This is not the love as the true self, though it might echo the true.

P: I find myself trying to love everyone despite my own guidance that not everyone wants to be loved like I offer it. Colleen-Joy: The mind cannot love everyone. The mind, as software is built to divide and project duality.

The mind makes it seem that we are separate selves. The mind is in awareness, it is an object appearing to, on and in awareness. If we take ourselves as the mind, we feel separate, and we try to love, try to find happiness and try to get our apparent needs fulfilled by others.

Even the need to fulfil others needs is our own minds projected need. The true self, as awareness is whole and complete, needing nothing including not needing to fulfil others needs.

P: Spending the time with the other is often the default that I go to. I do realise that we all have needs and this may not answer the other’s needs.

Colleen-Joy: Spending time with the self, as awareness is a focus of attention needed to really discover that the self is whole and is love.

Seeing our personality programs, which arise in the mind-body and learning to discern that as awareness, we are not ultimately our program (for example some programs feel compelled to help and fulfil others needs in order to feel loved and needed) is liberation from the program.

When we establish clarity that we are awareness and not an object in awareness (a thought, feeling or personality need), then we feel liberated from those emotional needs. The next step we take is to reclaim the objects of awareness as being the self, and this is true unconditional love.

Awareness, knowing, the non-dual self loves because it is love.

This love is free of need. All needs die in this love.

All love, Colleen

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